Valentine’s Day can be fraught with expectations—hoping for a Valentine from everyone in the class or from just one special person. Proposals and engagement rings are not always received or accepted.

When I met the Valentine of my dreams ❤️ I didn’t wait for a special day to propose to him. Yes, I proposed to him!

When the children came along, I concentrated on making Valentine goody baskets and new outfits. 

When the kids grew up, I was able to refocus on my original handsome Valentine.

I’d light candles for a romantic meal and he brought me flowers.

But somehow, it felt contrived. Forced gift-giving has never been our thing, even on Christmas.

If my husband had to work late on Valentine’s Day, or my heart-shaped strawberry cake flopped, we were disappointed. 

We talked about it.

These days, my husband brings me flowers—just because. He surprises me with perfect mangoes in season. And almost every Sunday, he sets the table for two and makes lunch. (Last weekend was a perfect prime rib. Yum!) 

I don’t do enough in return, but I’m always on the lookout for ways to make my husband’s day a bit easier.

Don’t get me wrong. I am not the Scrooge of Valentine’s Day. I just think everyone should celebrate it in a way that is stress-free and enjoyable for all involved. 

This year I’m invited to a Valentine tea and evening with girlfriends. 

My husband will contentedly stay home and watch Motor Trend. Or search the food channel for recipes for our next Sunday dinner.

Whether you spend the day with a friend, crush, co-worker, lover, or child—Happy Heart Day to all! 💘

How do you celebrate Valentine’s Day?